45 mins ago by Acrion1 0 Votes


I was contacted by so-called members of Candytwist during about 4 weeks, whereby I replied, and they replied, but I was still a free member, so I could not read the girls messages, and Candytwist says, that the girl knows I have sent her a mail, but cannot read it, unless I upgrade and pay for Premium Membership. I finally paid for a 3 months membership, and thought at last I would be able to actualy have an exchange with these girls, so I told them I had upgraded, and that now, at last, we can talk on IM to get to know one another before meeting up, but I have never received any more messages since upgrading.
I live in Switzerland, and having done several searches of people who are supposed to be members of Candytwist, I only found very few in the whole country. I have sent a few mails out, no replies.
It is true, that in the "facts" part of the profiles, only certain parts of the profiles are filled out, and the rest is marked as "ask me".
I have been contacted by a couple of women in the States though, but that doesn't help much if I want to meet these people!
I am getting very disappointed in these Dating Sites. I have also been a free member of AmateurMatch for about 6 months. I get 8 offers a day from girls, and have had about 550 girls altogether who have contacted me, and they are all marked by AmateurMatch as living in Switzerland. Then they start saying they live near to my town, and even in the town where I am living. I done a search with the search feature of AM from a 100 mile radius of the biggest cities in Switzerland, and there are only about 8 members of AM in the whole of the country, and most of them have not been on the site since 3 months., Another example of a big scam, I did not upgrade on that site, and unfortunately did not Google Candytwist before I upgraded. I only upgraded 3 days ago, but I know the girls I was exchanging messages with were not on vacation, as they were marked as having been online in last 24 hours. One of them was marked online, when I sent her a message saying I had upgraded. NO REPLY. I have contacted others., NO REPLY. So that is around 60 Dollars down the drain, and a lot of disappointment. After all, there were only 2 girls who interested me, and I only upgraded to contact those two. I am fed up with being scammed. I have been scammed over a Skype connection with a girl, with whom I had a (which I really believed was true) relationship which lasted 8 and half months, I lost 28000 dollars, although I consider myself intelligent. That left me with only 2000 $ left in my bank account. I promised that girl at the start that if she was scamming me she would pay for the rest of her life. I have given her a delay until 15 september to start sending me at least 20.000 dollars (5ooo a month via Western Union) during a 4 month period, and if she does not do that, I will put all the proof and all the info I have (I also have a webcam pic of the girl) out to about 10 different places, including of course the FBI. I know it is not a guy, unless the girl on webcam was hired by a guy, and even if that is the case, the person who was on cam cannot hide, because that person exists. She lives in Ghana, so I doubt she would ever be arrested but if she were, she would have to give names. I do not want to have to do all this work of putting all the proof, and proofs I have found of her on Anti-Scam sites together, so I am trying to get a part of my cash back. I told the girl at the very start that if she was scamming me, I would destroy her entire life. I promised her that. I try to keep my promises. She is very professional, I have been without contact for a while, but I published the webcam pic on Twitpic (that was a shot over the bows) and got a reaction from her best friend. Also, got a reaction from the girl herself who says she did not want to talk to me any more, but her best friend pleaded with her, but we have not talked yet. We had a very normal relationship, except the girl always had problems; money problems obviously, but things seemed to be working out to a happy ending. Well it was not the ending I was expecting. First of all I suffered very badly emotionally, after I got over that, then I started thinking about all the cash I had sent her. I am 62 years old. I never go out. I am on an Incapacity benefit so I do not get a normal income like most people, just a minimum from the Government. And now I needed that cash so I could meet other girls, like from Candytwist, but seems that will not be a problem since these girls do not seem to exist.
I do not believe any girl who contacts me via the Internet any longer, and I have been contacted by Russian Girls, and others, they were all guys, but they made mistakes. I find myself in a situation that even if I had a webcam contact with a girl, that I would never know, if there was not a guy behind it. I would have to have a contact with someone local here in Switzerland, where we could meet up in real-life, so that I know that the person is real.
An intelligent person in love, becomes very quickly a fool. I now have all the tools to check any mail by it's IP address, I would Google any girls name, e-mail, and check her photos against a Database of over 100, 000 girls via an Anti-Scam site now, but the damage has been done, and I have really badly suffered over the last months.
I will leave it there, but if anyone reads this and wants to know how to check a photo, they can go to www.scamdigger.com, where you can browse thru your pics and they have an application which will check the photo against over 100, 000 photos. If there is a match, you will be directed to the right site (they have access to info from several sites), and usually there is a forum of information exchanged, also other pics the same person might have used and different emails. Someone tried to scam me using 3 different email addresses, 3 different sets of girls photos, but it did not work. The girl/guy said she lived in England, asked me to send money via WU to Nigeria though (strange), so I checked the IP address thru an application called www.geektools.com, and found the mail came from a server in Nigeria. That was where the girl/guy made a big mistake. I am really very wary now. You cannot trust anyone. Seems like all dating sites are scams.
Even in real-life, it is hard to trust people.
I think I have said enough there